How to give a rehearsal dinner speech
The rehearsal dinner is smaller, looser and more personal than the wedding reception. That makes it the perfect place for the stories that are a bit too long or too niche for the big day — and for people who won't be speaking tomorrow.
Who usually speaks
- The hosts (traditionally the groom's parents) welcome everyone.
- Friends and siblings who aren't speaking at the wedding.
- Sometimes the couple, to thank the wedding party.
How it differs from a wedding speech
- Shorter — one to three minutes is ideal, because several people often speak.
- More informal — inside jokes land better because the room knows each other.
- Don't steal the best man's or maid of honor's material for tomorrow.
A quick structure
- Who you are.
- One story.
- One wish for tomorrow and beyond.
- Glasses up.
Example opening
Good evening, everyone — I'm Rachel, Ben's aunt. Tomorrow you'll hear the polished speeches. Tonight you get the family version, which involves a canoe, a lake in Wales, and a twelve-year-old Ben insisting he "definitely knew how to steer"…
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Write my speechFrequently asked questions
Is a rehearsal dinner speech required?
No, but the host usually says a few words of welcome. Other toasts are optional.
Can I give a speech at both the rehearsal dinner and the wedding?
Yes, but make them different — save your best story for one of them.