How to write a mother of the groom speech
A mother of the groom speech is a chance to say what you've always felt about your son — and to welcome the person he's chosen. It doesn't need to be long. Warm, specific and sincere beats polished every time.
A simple structure
- Welcome and thanks — especially if your family is hosting.
- A memory of your son — small and specific is best.
- Who he is now — what makes you proud.
- Your new son- or daughter-in-law — the moment you knew, and a heartfelt welcome.
- A wish and a toast.
Things to avoid
- Jokes about "losing" your son or about mothers-in-law.
- Embarrassing baby stories that go on too long — one line is charming, three minutes isn't.
- Advice that sounds like instructions.
Length
Two to four minutes, around 300–500 words.
Example opening
Hello everyone. I'm Anne, James's mum. James was the kind of little boy who brought me flowers from the neighbour's garden — roots and all. He's still that boy: generous, a little chaotic, and always thinking of someone else. And then he met Olivia…
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Write my speechFrequently asked questions
Is it traditional for the mother of the groom to speak?
It's becoming common, especially at rehearsal dinners or when the groom's family hosts. Follow the couple's lead.
How do I welcome my daughter-in-law without it sounding formal?
Speak to her directly and name something specific you love about her.