How to write a father of the groom speech
Traditionally the father of the groom didn't speak at all — but today many do, especially at rehearsal dinners or when the groom's family is hosting. Your job is simple and lovely: show how proud you are of your son, and welcome his new spouse into your family.
What to include
- Thanks — to the bride's family, to guests, and to whoever is hosting.
- A story about your son — something from his childhood that still says who he is.
- What you're proud of — the man he's become, in plain words.
- A welcome to his partner — what you've come to love about them.
- A toast to the couple.
How long?
Two to four minutes. If the father of the bride is also speaking, keep yours shorter and avoid repeating the same thank-yous.
Tips
- Coordinate with the father of the bride so you're not telling the same kind of story.
- Avoid "losing a son" jokes — focus on gaining a daughter or son-in-law.
- One piece of advice, if any, and keep it short.
Example opening
Good evening. I'm David, Tom's dad. When Tom was eight, he spent an entire summer building a go-kart out of a pram and some fence panels. It never worked. But he never stopped trying — and that, I've learned, is exactly how he loves people…
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Write my speechFrequently asked questions
Does the father of the groom give a speech at the wedding or the rehearsal dinner?
Either. Traditionally it's the rehearsal dinner, but many families now include him at the reception.
Should the groom's parents speak together?
A joint speech works well if it's short and rehearsed. Split the stories and let one of you give the toast.